Letting your partner take control
In a room, only one person drives at a time. Here is how to hand off (or take) control mid-session.
In a ToyControl room, only one person drives the toy at a time. That person is the controller. Everyone else sees the room but does not have the slider. To swap who is driving, the new person clicks Request Control and the current controller approves it.
This article walks through the handoff.
How control works
When a room is first created, the host can pick who starts as the controller, or leave it open. As soon as someone takes the slider, they are the active controller.
Anyone in the room can ask for control at any moment. The current controller gets a notification and decides whether to hand it over.
How to request control
- You are in the room as a guest or as a non-driving participant.
- Click Request control.
- The current controller sees a side toast on their screen with two buttons: Grant or Decline.
- If they click Grant, the slider hands over to you within a second.
- If they click Decline, you stay where you are. You can ask again later.
There is no limit on how many times you can ask, but spamming the request is rude.
How to grant control
- You are the current controller. You see a side toast at the bottom of the screen saying someone has requested control.
- Click Grant to hand over.
- The slider on your screen turns inactive. The other person's slider becomes active.
Host authority
The host (the room creator) always has fallback authority. The host can:
- Grant control to anyone without needing the current controller's approval.
- Revoke control from anyone at any time.
- Promote a different participant to controller.
If the active controller is unresponsive (away, idle, slow to grant), the host can hand off without them.
What happens when the controller leaves
If the active controller disconnects (closes the tab, leaves the room), control is automatically vacated. The toy stops on the next idle tick. Anyone remaining in the room can take control by clicking Request control. If the host is still there, they can hand it directly.
Multiple people in a queue
If two people both request control while a third is driving, the current controller sees both requests as separate toasts. They can grant either, both at different times, or neither.
There is no formal queue; it is whoever the current controller picks.
When to use handoffs
Some sessions benefit from swapping control:
- Couples taking turns. One person drives for 5 minutes, then the other.
- Group sessions with rotating drivers.
- Coaching sessions where one person guides and the other practices.
For a one-on-one session, you may never use the handoff feature. It is there if you want it.